Announcement: On April 11th, I am starting a new/second menβs circle within Brothers of the Ever Innocent Heartβthe menβs group I founded last year. I am doing this to accommodate more men within the brotherhood, which is still going strong after ~7 months, and has proven to be a powerful and nourishing space for men to experience ongoing healing, growth, integration, accountability, camaraderie, and to collectively discover what mature masculinity looks like in 2023. Monthly financial contribution is on a sliding scale to meet men where they are. Limited spaces are available. You can read more about the brotherhood and apply here, or book a free heart-to-heart exploration call with me here:
Men,
Iβm calling you forward.
Below Iβve written out 101 reasons why you need a well-held menβs circle.
Warning: Some of these are confronting.
My aim here is not to βshit-talkβ you, yet often men need a bit of fire to push them to take action.
Men often respond to no-bullshit directness.
So thatβs a big part of what Iβm giving you here: Tough love.
Important note: Not all of these are going to apply to you. Maybe most of them donβt apply to you. Butβ¦
Keep your eyes open for the handful of these that really hit you.
The ones that strike a resounding chord, kinda piss you off, or βcatchβ on something youβre barely conscious of.
Those are going to be the key reasons why you specifically need a menβs circle.
Letβs get started.
101 Reasons Why You Need a Menβs Circle
You need a menβs circle because you were never meant to do it alone.
You need a menβs circle because youβre having too many fake conversations and need more realness in your life.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt know who you are.
You need a menβs circle because men have always thrived when they have brothers and elders to help them initiate into manhood.
You need a menβs circle because youβre caught in perpetual boyhood and itβs sabotaging you more and more with every passing year.Β
You need a menβs circle because you have (almost) no one in your life who will actually tell you the truth and give it to you straight.Β
You need a menβs circle because youβre leaking massive energy through addictions and misaligned behaviors.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt respect yourself enough to live a healthy lifestyle.
You need a menβs circle because you think βfuck bitches, get moneyβ is sound life advice.
You need a menβs circle because you are afraid of power, you believe power is evil, and you cannot imagine what it would be like to be healthily connected to your own masculine power.
You need a menβs circle because you are afraid of money, you believe money is evil, and you cannot imagine what it would be like to develop healthy financial mastery.
You need a menβs circle because you are afraid of your sexuality, you believe your sexuality is shameful, and you cannot imagine what it would be like to be healthily sexually expressed and fulfilled.
You need a menβs circle because you are terrible at honoring and standing up for your own needs and wants.
You need a menβs circle because youβre too isolated, in an echo chamber of one, and the YouTube algorithm is driving you deeper and deeper into a weird, ominous reality-tunnel.
You need a menβs circle because youβre already a thriving leader but you want to keep healing and leveling up.
You need a menβs circle because you lack faith in Life and humanity.
You need a menβs circle because youβre not seeing and owning your gifts, genius, and greatness.Β
You need a menβs circle because you arenβt consistently dedicated to anything that flows from your heart and soul.
You need a menβs circle because youβre not going to dig yourself out of that hole on your own.
You need a menβs circle because you are uninspired, unmotivated, and lack the fire of a warrior.
You need a menβs circle because on some level you hate yourself and youβre not sure why.
You need a menβs circle because your main relationship with women is through fake pornographic distortions on a computer screen.
You need a menβs circle because Life wants you to be a good father and husband (someday).
You need a menβs circle because youβre still living like youβre in college.
You need a menβs circle because you smell bad and donβt shower often enough.
You need a menβs circle because you regularly desecrate your body and mind with rotten garbage of many varieties.
You need a menβs circle because youβre full of shit in many ways and everyone can see it except you.
You need a menβs circle because you smoke too much weed and youβre lazy, hazy, passive, and imbalanced toward your feminine side.
You need a menβs circle because the booze has its hooks in you on a level deeper than you care to admit, and itβs (subtly) poisoning your life.Β
You need a menβs circle because youβre stuck in the βNice Guyβ archetype, you let people walk all over you, and itβs slowly creating a time-bomb of resentment that is one day going to explode.
You need a menβs circle because youβve let your ego quietly expand to the size of Alaska, and the longer you deny this, the messier itβs going to be when Life pops your bubble.Β
You need a menβs circle because your entire life is a trauma response, and you donβt realize it.
You need a menβs circle because everything you do is (unconsciously) designed to get you sex, and you (unconsciously) believe βfuckingβ is the greatest thing in life.
You need a menβs circle because you have no idea what it would be like to passionately make love with your wife, with profound presence, such that your souls unify in the sacred bliss of mystical experience.
You need a menβs circle because your word isnβt worth jack shit. You say youβre going to do stuff and you donβt actually do it.
You need a menβs circle because the future of all our families and all beings on this beautiful planet depends on heart-led mature masculine leaders rising to the occasion.
You need a menβs circle because you believe adult development stops at age 25.Β
You need a menβs circle because youβre fat, slow, and weak.
You need a menβs circle because youβre scared of men and scared of your own manhood.
You need a menβs circle because youβre playing the victim, blaming your parents, blaming the universe, blaming society, blaming God.
You need a menβs circle because youβve got deep wounds and you need a safe space to heal, where you will be held in unconditional Love and accepted as you are.
You need a menβs circle because you hardly know any good, high-integrity, powerful, heart-led men.Β
You need a menβs circle because your heart is closed and youβre hiding from Life.Β
You need a menβs circle because youβre slowly dying inside yet too proud and scared to ask for help.
You need a menβs circle because you are wasting this precious gift of Life.
You need a menβs circle because your (future) kids need a dad they can respect and look up to.
You need a menβs circle because you have so much to share with the world, yet you keep your mouth and creative channel closed.
You need a menβs circle because you are a leader pretending to be a follower.
You need a menβs circle because no one knows the real you.
You need a menβs circle because youβve never cried in front of a group of loving men.
You need a menβs circle because youβve done too many psychedelics and youβre floaty, fluffy, drunk on woo, and totally ungrounded.
You need a menβs circle because youβre not part of anything bigger than yourself.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt like the word βservice.βΒ
You need a menβs circle because the little boy in you is crying out for the compassionate male attention he never received.
You need a menβs circle because youβre obsessed with conspiracy theories, not realizing youβre using these theories to project your own wounds and fears outward, rather than going inward to face them.
You need a menβs circle because youβre hiding behind over-intellectualization and fancy jargon.
You need a menβs circle because youβre hiding behind βwoke-nessβ and political correctness.
You need a menβs circle because your mind is cabbaged up with dogma and ideology.
You need a menβs circle because youβre a perpetual βflowboiβ who is afraid of commitment, living a life of New Age hedonism while calling it βspiritual.β
You need a menβs circle because youβre ensnared in juvenile cynicism, nihilism, rebellion, atheism, or scientism.
You need a menβs circle because you think Andrew Tate is a good masculine role model.
You need a menβs circle because youβre using βnon-dualityβ to subtly bypass your human life and keep your heart closed.
You need a menβs circle because youβve never met a true man.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt know what unconditional Love feels like.
You need a menβs circle because you canβt make a relationship last, and your insistence on needing an βopen relationshipβ is rooted in a deep fear of commitment.
You need a menβs circle because youβre a slave, in more ways than youβd ever want to admit to yourself.
You need a menβs circle because youβre frenetic, fidgety, constantly distracted, disembodied, and rarely Present.
You need a menβs circle because you believe life is a burdensome prison sentence rather than an invaluable gift and opportunity.
You need a menβs circle because you never invest in yourself, financially or otherwise.
You need a menβs circle because youβre afraid of dancing and public speaking.
You need a menβs circle because no one can rely on you.
You need a menβs circle because you feel a strong reactive distaste for Jordan Peterson and/or Joe Rogan.
You need a menβs circle because youβre a workaholic over-achiever who never stops chasing βsuccessβ long enough to ask the hard questions about what youβre running away from and over-compensating for.
You need a menβs circle because your βdream lifeβ was given to you by pop music, Instagram influencers, and a TV screen.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt know what you want, or you believe you know what you want yet never ask yourself *why* you want it.
You need a menβs circle because Life is βnever enoughβ for you, youβre always looking to the βnext thing,β and youβre never stopping to truly savor and appreciate what you already have.
You need a menβs circle because your wife doesnβt respect you or feel attracted to you anymore.
You need a menβs circle because you blindly trust external authorities and βexpertsβ to tell you and your (future) kids how to live your lives.Β
You need a menβs circle because you are not able to relate healthily to authority figures and to discerningly integrate the wisdom that many experts, leaders, and scientists do indeed possess.
You need a menβs circle because you still engage in βlocker room talk.β
You need a menβs circle because you view women primarily as sexual objects that you βwould like to fuck.β
You need a menβs circle because youβre too much in your Artist and your (future) family needs you to activate your Warrior, King, Father, Protector, and Provider.Β
You need a menβs circle because youβre too much in your Provider or Achiever and youβve forgotten how to play, create, laugh, and have fun.
You need a menβs circle because you consume life constantly yet do not complete the cycle by giving back creatively.
You need a menβs circle because you read many articles and books yet never actually take big action or change your life in deep, lasting ways.
You need a menβs circle because youβre scared to share a space of Raw Loving Honesty with other men.
You need a menβs circle because there are a lot of things your dad never said or did, that you really wish he had.
You need a menβs circle because there are a lot of things your mom never said or did, that you really wish she had.
You need a menβs circle because people hurt you.
You need a menβs circle because your parents hurt you.
You need a menβs circle because society hurt you.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt know what it feels like to love yourself.
You need a menβs circle because youβre fake. Youβre not a real person.
You need a menβs circle because youβre afraid of women, and angry at them.
You need a menβs circle because you canβt let her go, even though sheβs gone.
You need a menβs circle because youβre the βAddicted Loverβ who easily falls for women, comes on too strong, and gets too attached too quickly.
You need a menβs circle because you donβt know how to have a good time without substances.
You need a menβs circle because you have no real friends.
You need a menβs circle because youβre dabbling in the βWild Westβ that is New Age spirituality, and a group of grounded men will help you avoid getting sucked into all sorts of wackiness.
You need a menβs circle because life on Earth in 2023 is absurd, changing at lightning speed, and massively initiatory. A council of good men will help you navigate.
You need a menβs circle because you deserve better.
Bonus: You need a menβs circle because you donβt know that God loves you beyond all reckoning.
In Sum: Will You Take Action?
Well, there you have it.
Told you some of those would be confronting, didnβt I? π
Some of them hit deep for me too. Iβm certainly not perfect in all these areas.
A Menβs Circle is not a panacea or overnight solution that is magically going to resolve all the issues Iβve touched upon above, yet it is a damn powerful support system that can make a massive and even life-saving difference, especially when:
Youβre committed to the path of truth, healing, and evolution.
Youβre with a tight-knit group of brothers who are committed to consistently showing up for each other and going deeper and deeper together, week in, week out, over a long span of time.
Youβve found a truly well-held, holistic/integral, multi-modality, high-level menβs container of the sort I am endeavoring to build within Brothers of the Ever Innocent Heart.
(Read my post on the β20 Ways Menβs Work Changed My Lifeβ to better understand how Menβs Work catalyzes and supports powerful change in mensβ lives.)
Soβ¦
The question now is:
Will you take action on what youβve just read?
Or will you simply go back to scrolling the web and absorbing information that you donβt apply?
As I said at the beginning, on April 11th Iβm starting a new/second menβs circle within Brothers of the Ever Innocent Heart.
This is a golden opportunity for new men to dive into this work together.
Space is limited to ~12-14 men.
Will you be one of them?
Only you can answer that.
If youβre still reading, itβs clear that this post is stirring something within you, brother.
On some deep intuitive level, you feel the call.
Will you act on that calling?
Will you give yourself the beautiful gift of experiencing a long-term, powerfully-held Menβs Circle?
Book a free exploration call with me, and letβs have a heart-to-heart to find out if this is the right fit for both of us:
(If none of the time slots on my calendar work for you, just reply to this email or email me at jordan.bates1991 [at] gmail [dot] com, and we will find a time.)
Itβs not uncommon to find people asking $400-500+ per month to join similar mensβ containers.
Yet for me itβs important that this work is accessible to a wide segment of men.
I do find it important for men to make some kind of financial contribution though, as experience has shown me that on average, men who invest in themselves and put real βskin in the game,β are far more committed, show up more fully, and create a more powerful experience for everyone involved.
The monthly financial contribution for Brothers of the Ever Innocent Heart is on a sliding scale, and breaks down like this:
$111/month β βBootstrappedβ
$155/month β βStandardβ
$222/month β βAbundantβ
(If a man needs further assistance, feels a strong calling, and if I feel heβs meant to be part of this, itβs also possible to choose a lower monthly contribution level.)
Soβ¦
Essentially this is designed to really meet you where you are and allow you to choose a level of investment that feels good, workable, and activating for you.
Now, once moreβ¦
Will you be one of the men who takes action on this?
What is being offered here, is well worth the investment. You sense this.
You canβt ultimately quantify how deep this work can go.
You canβt quantify the value of men deeply healing, discovering who they truly are, and being that person.
I commend you on reading this far.
Youβre still here.
Showing up for yourself. Investigating an opportunity for your own betterment.
Thatβs amazing.
Soβ¦
Book a call with me, brother.
I donβt bite. Iβm not going to βhard sellβ youβthatβs not my style.
Itβs a simple heart-to-heart conversation, where I ask a few questions about what is real, raw, and alive for youβand you have the opportunity to share as much or as little as you like. It gives us a chance to meet and sense each otherβs energy. It gives you a chance to ask any questions that you may have. I typically open these calls with a meditation and hold space as if I were facilitating a one-on-one coaching or healing session for you. Itβs totally free, no strings attached.
Why not take a call that could change your life?
I look forward to meeting you.
With Love,
Jordan